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January 31, 2018

Top 4 Reasons for the United States Surrogacy Boom

You don’t have to do much beyond turning on the TV to hear a story about surrogacy nowadays. Chances are that you have at least one person in your circle who has considered it, if not grown their family with the help of a gestational surrogate. Just a few years ago, it wasn’t quite so big. So, what’s the reason behind the surrogacy boom? It comes down to these four things.

1) Improved Legislation

Particularly here in California, surrogacy laws go the distance. While the state’s parentage laws help anyone growing their family through virtually any means beyond natural conception, they’re of particular importance to those who work with surrogates because they empower individuals to establish parentage before a baby is born. While many states are starting to come around to this and have started looking out for unique cases, California is the only state that works this way, and has jurisdiction over virtually every parentage case that has had at least some part of the process occur within the state boundaries. The added legislation provides reassurance to intended parents that the process is safe and secure.

2) Better Medical Processes and Care

IVF techniques have been refined over the years. When IVF first emerged, it had an average success rate of just 6%. However, when the latest round of data was collected in 2015, the CDC reported that ART cycles were successful 47% of the time when a donor egg was used. While there is never a guarantee with any kind of reproductive assistance, the steady increase in healthy pregnancies over the years, paired with the fact that thousands of babies are born each year using ART is encouraging for many intended parents.

3) Legislative/ Humanistic Global Issues

While the legislation in California is amazing, it’s not this way around the globe. Many countries outright ban surrogacy, and some, like Australia, even prohibit parents from traveling to make surrogacy arrangements. Others simply prohibit surrogates from accepting payments, which leaves intended parents with few options if family and friends are unable to help. In China, surrogacy is a gray area, but stigma and a varying egg donor pool often causes citizens to seek surrogates in other countries. The US, with strong laws in states like California, and top-notch medical care, is the obvious choice for intended parents who must travel for surrogacy services.

4) An Established Model

Unfortunately, any time there is an emotionally-charged situation, there will be someone trying to take advantage of the vulnerable. While other countries around the world struggle with managing these types of issues, and it still occasionally occurs in parts of the US too, California’s surrogacy-friendly laws have put it on the forefront of innovation and helped the state become a global destination for surrogacy over the years. Because of this, trustworthy agencies like Surrogate Parenting Services have earned a reputation for providing quality services, while protecting the rights of surrogates and intended parents alike. Nowadays, intended parents can take advantage of this established model, knowing that if they choose to work with SPS, they’re selecting an agency that has helped hundreds of families grow.

Work with a Trusted Surrogacy Agency

Whether you’re an individual who would like to grow your family with the help of a surrogate, or you’re a woman who would like to be a surrogate, SPS is here to support you. We match individuals up with our own proprietary process, which includes values and personality, to create teams that have a smooth surrogacy journey. We also make sure everything is seen to throughout the process, so everyone involved can relax and enjoy the pregnancy. Visit our “become a surrogate” page if you’d like to help a family. Individuals interested in growing their families with the help of a surrogate may complete our online form or call us directly at (949) 397-6855.

January 22, 2018

Surrogates: 4 Health Myths for Pregnant Women

Women can only become surrogates with SPS if they’ve already had a healthy pregnancy and have at least one child of their own living with them. However, sometimes years may pass between the birth of your child and the decision to become a surrogate, and it’s easy to forget some of the common health myths. Perhaps you may have actually believed some of them with your earlier pregnancy, too. On this page, we’ll give a quick refresher on some of the most common health myths for pregnant women, and explain why they’re totally busted.

1) Surrogates Must Eat for Two

Well, yes and no, say experts. As a surrogate, you would start your journey at a healthy weight or BMI, which would mean you need to take in about 300 extra calories per day. That’s not quite like “eating for two,” because one of you is quite small! To clarify, 300 calories is about what you might take in if you eat an apple with peanut butter or have half a sandwich with some skim milk.

2) Hot Baths Will Hurt the Baby

Hot baths are totally fine, says the American Pregnancy Association. In fact, they can be incredibly beneficial for keeping you relaxed and soothing sore muscles. The worry comes in more with hot tubs, which are typically programmed to be 104° F. Exposure to temperatures over 102° F during the first trimester of pregnancy is linked to increased risk of birth defects. In other words, you’ll want to steer clear of hot tubs, or limit heat exposure per the APA guidelines, but an average warm bath is ok.

3) You Should Cut Back on Exercise or Not Exercise at All

Naturally, this is one area you’ll want to talk with your fertility specialist about, because most surrogacies are considered high-risk and the physician may well want you to take it easy, especially in the beginning. However, as the pregnancy progresses, most women get a green light to resume their normal routines, provided the exercise doesn’t include certain positions or excessive heat. Provided the doctor gives his ok, exercise is good for you and the baby.

4) If You’re Not Having the “Perfect” Pregnancy, Something is Wrong

As surrogates, women are always looking for signs that things are progressing normally and that the baby is healthy. It’s understandable, considering you’re carrying someone else’s hopes and dreams, as well as a few of your own, no doubt. It’s easy to overanalyze situations, like if morning sickness is present or not present, and how it compares to earlier pregnancies. Interestingly, scientists are now linking a hormone called human chorionic gonadotropin with morning sickness, and note that baby girls produce more than baby boys. Women who are sick enough to have been hospitalized for morning sickness for at least three days are 80% more likely to be carrying a girl. However, absence of morning sickness, even while carrying a girl, is not always cause for concern, nor is it somehow better to not be sick at all. Each pregnancy is unique, whether you feel wonderful and are over-the-moon ecstatic the whole time or fall somewhere else on the spectrum. Always defer questions or concerns to your physician, but know there is no “perfect” pregnancy.

Interested in Becoming a Surrogate?

If you haven’t already signed on with an agency and you’re considering becoming a surrogate, let SPS help you through the process. Our founder Cristie Montgomery created Surrogate Parenting Services after experiencing the process firsthand as a surrogate, and now has been involved in the births of hundreds of babies. Not only does she personally meet each and every surrogate, but she ensures all parties involved have the smoothest experience possible. To learn more and see if you’re a candidate, visit our “become a surrogate” page.

January 9, 2018

Surrogacy in California: The Many Faces of Motherhood

Naturally, anyone who is familiar with surrogacy in California already knows that motherhood is not a one-size-fits-all title. There are countless faces of motherhood, each special in its own unique way.

“Traditional” Motherhood

What most would consider traditional motherhood involves natural conception, delivery, and raising a child who shares a biological link. While just under four-million babies are born each year, and the vast majority to their biologically-related mothers, roughly 11% of all women are infertile, an untold number cannot, or chose not, to carry and deliver biologically-related children.

Foster Motherhood

There are more than 400,000 children in the American foster care system, each with his or her own traumatic history. Some have been beaten, neglected, or abandoned. The median amount of time child spends in foster care is one year, with more than half of all children returning to their parent or primary caregiver at some point. Foster moms help these children overcome their difficult pastes and provide a warm and loving environment while the child’s family rehabilitates and works to bring the child home. In cases where the child’s family does is not able to regain custody, foster parents often adopt the children they care for. This occurs about one-fourth of the time, while the remaining children stay in the system. Approximately 20,000 age out of the system each year.

Adoptive Motherhood

As noted, many foster mothers eventually go on to be adoptive mothers, while other adoptive mothers receive their children directly from the biological mother or through other avenues. While surrogacy in California enables mothers to establish parentage before a baby is born, this isn’t so in other parts of the country. In these cases, adoptive mothers may actually be the biological mother (if a surrogate helped with the pregnancy), the partner of the biological or birth mother, or related through some other fashion. Unlike foster motherhood, adoption is forever.

Surrogate Motherhood

Often referred to as surrogates or gestational carriers, surrogate mothers make the compassionate decision to carry a baby for another person. Historically, surrogate mothers were also genetically-related to the babies they carried, but nowadays most intended parents either use their own eggs or select eggs from donors as a separate facet of the surrogacy process. Some surrogates remain in the lives of the families they help create, while others provide assistance and move onto other things. Each relationship between a surrogate and intended parent is beautifully unique.

Motherhood Via Surrogacy/ Intended Motherhood

Surrogacy has been on the rise for more than a decade. Previous statistics showed a leap of 83% from 2004 to 2008, with the latest research showing more than 1,500 babies being born via surrogacy each year. However, that was back in 2011. Advancements in IVF and improved services have put surrogacy within reach for many intended mothers. While some intended mothers are able to use their own eggs in the surrogacy process and can therefore share a biological link with the child, others opt for surrogacy in order to give their partners a genetic link to their child or for other personal reasons. Because intended mothers are able to be part of the pregnancy, they also begin developing bonds with their babies right from the start.

Shared Motherhood

Shared motherhood, or co-motherhood, is the term most often used in the LGBT community. This unique arrangement enables both parties of a lesbian couple to share in the pregnancy by implanting one woman’s fertilized egg in the uterus of her partner. In states like California, both women can be named as parents before the baby is born. In other states, lawful parentage may belong to either the biological mother or the gestational carrier, despite the couple being together. In cases where the state does not have LGBT-friendly policies, it’s typical for the non-custodial mother to adopt the baby after he or she is born.

Step-Motherhood

Women who marry a person who already has children becomes their step-mother. While not a new concept at all, step-mothers often care for their step-children as if they were her own.

Motherhood by Choice

A select few, such as aunts, grandmothers, cousins, siblings, or close family friends, choose to fill a mothering role for a child. While these women almost never gain the title of “mother,” they do shape the lives of the children they shelter and help grow.

Motherhood by Any Name

While these are some of the most common ways women come into motherhood, it is not by any means an exhaustive list. All faces of motherhood, whether mentioned here or not, are special and unique in their own ways, and each time a compassionate and caring woman has a hand in the creation or development of life, it’s cause for celebration.

Considering Surrogacy in California? Call SPS

Surrogate Parenting Services is an experienced and dedicated agency, based in and focused on surrogacy in California. We work with both gestational carriers and intended parents to create matches which result in a smooth process, and stand beside our clients every step of the way. If you’re a woman who would like to help someone complete a family, please visit our page on becoming a surrogate. Individuals interested in growing their families with the help of a surrogate may complete our online form or call us directly at (949) 397-6855.

December 29, 2017

4 Tips for Surrogates on Bonding with Intended Parents

Surrogates are amazing people who are willing to give a selfless gift to parents who could not otherwise complete their families without them. However, many surrogates wonder what their relationship with the intended parents will be like and how to ensure that the relationship will be comfortable for everyone involved. On this page, we’ll explore some tips for surrogates that will help you get the most joy out of the journey.

1) Talk to Your Surrogacy Agency

There are lots of families who want to grow with the help of a surrogate, and it’s part of the agency’s job to make sure that surrogates are matched with intended parents who have similar values and personalities. At SPS, we spend time getting to know you. Our founder Cristie Montgomery will come to your home to meet with you and talk to you about your goals, wishes, and what your ideal arrangement looks like. From there, she’ll compare what you’re looking for and your personality to all the intended parents who would love to have your help, and will suggest matches she thinks are ideal. Although not every surrogacy agency works in such a personal and mindful way, if you’re working with an agency like SPS, your surrogacy team will be in your corner from the start. By making the very best matches possible, and giving you time to meet and decide for yourself, your relationship with the intended parents will already be off to a great start.

2) Talk to the Intended Parents

It’s ok to let them know what your hopes and wishes are. You’ll all be part of an amazing journey together and you’ll want to be on the same page from the very beginning. It’s also important to listen to them with an open heart and open mind, so you can dialogue about what matters most.

3) Put Yourself in Their Shoes

Surrogates are compassionate women. You wouldn’t have started the surrogacy process if you didn’t already have some understanding of the struggles intended parents face before they seek out a surrogacy agency. However, it can also be helpful to remember that, if these parents could have their own babies, they probably would. They may struggle, feel powerless, or even have jealousy because you can feel the baby’s kicks and they can’t. Some women would give just about anything for a bout of morning sickness. It’s common for intended parents to distance themselves because it’s painful for them to not be experiencing the pregnancy firsthand, while others will want to be involved in every detail. If you can genuinely put yourself in their shoes, and you follow what’s in your heart, you cannot go wrong.

4) Remember Every Bond is Different

Your bond with the intended parents will be as unique as the baby you carry. No two sets of intended parents and surrogates will ever form the exact same relationship. While many pairings SPS makes remain friends even after the baby is born because they’ve been well matched and went on such a personal journey together, there’s no rule that says that’s how it must be. If you and the intended parents are comfortable with your relationship, that’s all that matters.

Learn More About What Surrogates Do

If you think becoming a surrogate is right for you, learn more about the surrogacy process, and check out the requirements to become a surrogate. When you’re ready to begin the surrogacy journey, SPS will guide you through every step, from finding your ideal match to navigating the specifics of your arrangement.

December 18, 2017

Becoming a Surrogate: How to Explain the Baby Isn’t Yours

Becoming a surrogate is a wonderful and selfless choice that changes lives, and a healthy pregnancy is certainly cause for celebration  As your belly expands to accommodate the life growing inside of you, even strangers on the street will stop to share in your joy. However, this can also cause some awkward social moments because not everybody understands the surrogacy process and even those who do may not know how to respond to the news that the baby you’re carrying is for someone else. On this page, we’ll explore some of the methods surrogates can use to navigate this question with relative ease.

Ask Yourself: Do They Really Need to Know?

Naturally, your friends and family will be around you throughout the pregnancy and after, so those are people you’ll probably need to discuss your journey with when the time is right. Strangers on the street, not so much. If trying to explain your decision to the lady who lives three floors up from you stresses you out, there’s no rule that says you have to tell her.

Start with Your Team

Every gestational surrogate has a supportive team around her who support her decision. Maybe your team is your spouse, family members, friends, a support group, or a mixture of these people. In any case, starting with those who are closest to you will give you the opportunity to explain your decision in a warm environment. Moreover, these same people can help field questions on your behalf, limiting the number of discussions you’ll feel obligated to engage in.

Familiarize Yourself with the Common Awkward Questions

If you’re becoming a surrogate, you’ve already had a baby of your own, and you know that everybody and her mother will be wanting to offer well-intentioned advice on how to take care of yourself during the pregnancy, as well as what to do after the baby’s born, and they’ll probably ask intrusive or personal questions. That doesn’t change when people learn you’re carrying a baby for someone else. In fact, those same people will likely carry on a whole new line of awkward questioning. Again, you’re not under any obligation to answer any of these questions, but if you feel like you want to, it can be helpful to consider your answers in advance. You may hear:

How was the baby conceived?

People who ask this often don’t understand how becoming a surrogate works. Simply saying “IVF” may be enough to satiate their curiosity, or they may be wondering if you have a genetic link to the baby. In which case, you can choose to explain who the genetic parents are.

How can you give the baby up?

Because you’re the one who chose to become a surrogate, only you know the path which led you to make such a selfless choice. However, the simplest answer is, “This is not my baby.” Some women may diffuse this one with humor, hinting that they’re just the “babysitter” or they’re “holding the baby for a friend.” Others explain that they’ve already had a child, and they understand what a blessing babies are, and that they want the intended parents to experience the same joy. There isn’t a wrong answer here.

Can you get the baby back?

Again, people who don’t understand the surrogacy process or who have never struggled with infertility sometimes fail to realize that there are intended parents who absolutely cannot wait to hold the baby you’re carrying. Explaining this in your own words will likely help them understand why you’ve made such a selfless decision. Equally, you may also point out that California’s parentage laws allow the intended parents to establish their rights before the baby is even born, and that, not only are you not related to the baby, but you also have no lawful claim to him or her.

What do your husband and children think?

If you don’t know the person well, a curt, “My loved ones support my decision” or “My family is excited we’re helping the intended parents” works well. If the person knows your family, they could be genuinely wondering what they should say to them about it, if anything. Because every surrogate addresses this different with her own children, it may be helpful to give people guidance on what to say to your children.

How much are you getting paid?

We can blame the media for this one. It seems like every time a celebrity surrogacy story breaks, people want to know the most intimate details about the surrogate’s life, her relationship with the celebrity, and how much she was compensated. As a surrogate, you know you’re not doing it for the money. Surrogates carry babies out of compassion for the intended parents. Explaining that is more than good enough.

Interested in Becoming a Surrogate with SPS?

If you’re considering becoming a surrogate and you haven’t signed up with an agency, let SPS guide you through the journey. Our dedicated team of experts will help match you up with intended parents who need your help and share many of the same values you do. Moreover, we make sure everything is seen to, from medical visits, to legal contracts, and compensation. To get started, take a moment to review our guidelines to see if you’re a candidate, then use our quick online form on the same page to get in touch with us.

December 7, 2017

Surrogacy: Do You Tell Your Child?

Surrogacy may be the answer for many families who want to grow, but like any parenting decision, it comes with questions of its own as well. One tough decision parents face is whether to tell their child he or she was born through surrogacy, and if so, when and how.

Most Parents Tell Their Children About Their Surrogacy Journey

There are many different ways families come to be. One particular study published just a few years ago decided to delve into how well-adjusted children who came into families via methods other than traditional conception are. In order to do the study, researchers spoke with families with children who were conceived via surrogate, egg donation, donor insemination, and natural conception. They checked in with the families when the children were aged 3, 7, and 10. When they spoke with the parents at the 7-year-mark, slightly more than half of the children conceived through means other than natural conception had been told, but of those brought into the world via surrogacy, 100% of the parents had spoken with their children about how they came to be.

Maternal Stress Impacts How Children Cope

With the goal of the study being to determine how well-adjusted children were, surveys were given which explored the behaviors of the children as well as the quality of parenting each child received. First and foremost, it’s worth noting that every child in the study tested within the normal range, psychologically speaking, though some did exhibit behavioral problems within the normal range. One of the key findings of the study concluded that “children who were aware of the circumstances of their birth were more vulnerable to the effects of maternal distress,” meaning there was not necessarily a link between children knowing or not knowing and how well-adjusted they were, but if they did know the circumstances of their birth, and their mothers showed signs of distress, the children were more likely to show signs of behavioral problems.

Some Behavioral Differences Fade by Age 10

The study could not conclude if there were differences in children who knew they were born via surrogacy because all children in the surrogacy group were told by age 7.  However, researchers did note that children born via surrogacy did see a spike in behavioral problems (still within the normal range for children) at age 7. However, by age 10, when the children were followed up with, their results were indistinguishable from all other children in the study. Researchers say the same phenomenon occurs with adopted children as well, particularly in overseas adoptions where parents must discuss the adoption to explain racial differences. In essence, learning about one’s origins at an early age may cause some blips during childhood, but learning early also normalizes it for children, so they adapt quickly. Unfortunately, families with high maternal stress who chose to disclose did not fare as well. Researchers believe this is because those children don’t feel the same bond with their mothers.

Should You Tell Your Child?

Ultimately, the choice is yours, and if there’s a single takeaway from this study, it should be that mothers must feel absolutely confident and comfortable with their decision either way. Yes, there is research to suggest it’s beneficial to be open with your child as early as possible, but what matters most is how you feel.

Begin Your Surrogacy Journey

At SPS, we recognize that no two families are exactly the same, nor will any two parents make exactly the same choices. Honoring parental wishes and guiding intended parents through the process is something we’ve been proud to have been entrusted with over the course of hundreds of births. If surrogacy is the right choice for you, call us at (949) 363-9525.

November 29, 2017

Surrogacy in California: Why Kim K Needed a Surrogate

Surrogacy in California is quickly becoming mainstream as more and more media attention hones in on celebrity surrogacy. Though these cases are a bit different from the average citizen’s surrogacy process, the good news is that normalizing surrogacy can open doors and spark conversations for families looking for alternative ways to have children. Kim Kardashian West, one of the biggest names in celebrity news, has opened up about her previous pregnancies and her decision to choose a surrogate for her third child. Regardless of her lavish lifestyle and heightened publicity, her reproductive health story is one that many can relate to.

Reasons to Choose Surrogacy

Families all across the world consider surrogacy when conventional childbirth isn’t an option. There are countless reasons for this; some of the more common are infertility, same-sex partners, health complications, and/or single parenthood. Kim Kardashian West is an interesting case considering she has already successfully carried and given birth to two children, daughter North and son Saint. However, health complications have come to light since then and influenced her decision to have a third child.

Media reports have revealed details of Kim’s reproductive health challenges. According to In Touch, Kim suffers with severe fibroids. Though benign, uterine fibroids can cause intense pain and cramping, heavy menstrual bleeding, and pregnancy complications in the worst of cases. In addition, Kim’s first pregnancy was especially tough as she suffered placenta accreta after delivery. Placenta accreta is a condition in which the placenta detaches from the uterine wall after childbirth, often resulting in extreme blood loss. These complications can lead to a hysterectomy, meaning that childbearing would no longer be an option. Fortunately, she and husband Kanye West explored surrogacy and decided that this is the best option for them to continue growing their family.

Kim K’s Surrogate

Rumor has it that Kim Kardashian West’s third child will be born in January 2018. Us Magazine provided details of her surrogacy agreement with the surrogate mother, which include certain health stipulations such as avoiding smoking and not consuming raw fish. These are standard requests for intended parents to make of their surrogate mother, who must initially pass health screenings and often psychological evaluations even before being considered. Sources say that the famous family is in good hands with their surrogate, who has already had experience with the process before.

Choose SPS for Surrogacy in California

Whatever your reasons are for considering surrogacy, trust in Surrogate Parenting Services (SPS) as your agency. Well-versed in all things surrogacy, from legal contracts to health care to initial health screenings, and based in California, we benefit from the state’s liberal attitude to the process. With SPS, you will be taken care of every step of the way. For more information on how to start the surrogacy process, contact SPS at (949) 397-6855 today.

 

November 17, 2017

Becoming a Surrogate Mother: How Much Do Surrogates Make?

Celebrity surrogacy is lighting up the media these days. Well-known names such as Perez Hilton, Tyra Banks, and Kim Kardashian have all been part of the buzz around surrogacy. When it comes to the lifestyles of the rich and the famous, the media loves to focus on the price tag of a celebrity’s surrogate. Even when they do their best to maintain privacy, celebrities’ surrogate earnings are often leaked to the public. For people considering becoming a surrogate mother, it’s important to be equipped with realistic knowledge about surrogate compensation.

How Much Will a Celebrity Pay for Their Surrogate?

A recent article by Page Six has painted the life of a celebrity’s surrogate to be quite extraordinary. Sources close to public figures discuss the lengths they will go to in order to ensure their surrogates are well taken care of. Some have been known to hire personal chefs, fitness trainers, and massage therapists to provide pampering and quality care for their surrogate mothers. In even more extreme cases, celebrities have rented out homes for their surrogates in order to be closer during childbirth preparations. Extra amenities such as these, coupled with standard surrogate rates, can cost the likes of Kim Kardashian $100,000 or more.

Luxurious amenities and potential spa treatments can entice anyone. However, these perks often come hand in hand with concerns for privacy. Page Six notes what many celebrities endure in hopes of keeping their surrogacy process private. Some use pseudonyms, work only with agencies after hours, or have their partner handle all communications in order to avoid using their real name. There is the added concern for celebrities that if they reveal their identity too early it can alter an otherwise successful process. They worry that a surrogate will take advantage of the lavish treatment and compensation only to back out at the last minute. There’s also the risk of having the surrogate’s identity revealed to the public, which can attract unwanted media attention and add new levels of stress.

What Can You Expect to Earn as a Surrogate?

If you’re interested in becoming a surrogate, standard compensation is different, and it’s secondary to the emotional rewards of helping a family grow. At a well-respected surrogacy agency in California, first-time surrogates can expect to earn a flat fee of $45,000 – $49,000. Other compensation is typically provided for additional medical procedures, lost wages in the instance you must leave your job earlier than planned, multiple births, etc. More experienced surrogates, those going through the process for a second or third time, will receive higher compensation rates.

In addition to financial compensation, you will be rewarded with a deeply intimate bond with your intended parents. Many intended parents and surrogates form such a close friendship throughout the surrogacy process that they remain in close contact long after childbirth. There’s also the satisfaction of knowing you played a key role in another family’s happiness; without surrogates, many families would be unable to fulfill their dreams of having children. Many surrogate mothers enjoy this feeling so much that they embark on the surrogacy process more than once.

Surrogate Mothers Love Working With SPS

Becoming a surrogate mother is a process that should be handled with care, and potential surrogates can rest easy working with SPS. Trained professionals and expert mentors at SPS not only have personal experience with surrogacy but extensive knowledge about what it takes to make a successful experience for everyone involved. They handle everything from customized matches between surrogates and intended parents, setting up legal consultations and health screenings, and ensuring that all travel accommodations are met if necessary. For more information, contact SPS at (949) 397-6855 today.

 

 

November 6, 2017

4 Things That Change When You Become a Surrogate

Becoming a surrogate is an extremely rewarding experience. For intended parents all around the world who long for a family but can’t conceive, surrogate mothers are often the answers to their prayers. Because of this, providing the gift of a child to deserving people is a feeling that many surrogates say is unmatched by any other moment in their lives. It’s important to keep this in mind when initiating your surrogacy process and throughout the pregnancy. Read on for more changes that occur when you become a surrogate.

1) You Spend More Time with Doctors

Being aware of the medical procedures and health screenings you’ll undergo as a surrogate is important. Just like a pregnancy with your own child, you’ll see your doctors for ultrasounds and checkups regularly. However, because of the different process required to carry a child not biologically related to you, your health care providers will want to keep closer attention to make sure everything is going well. Intended parents also have a say in the birth plan and medical proceedings, so if they request more screenings your doctors will proceed accordingly. If you can handle a few more frequent visits to doctors, this will be no problem for you if you choose to become a surrogate. Rest assured that your surrogacy agency will help you understand the full extent of this before you begin.

2) You Form Close Bonds

When you become a surrogate, you will find yourself forming new relationships in life. Not only will you become closer with the intended parents, you will find valuable mentors and trusting peers while working with your surrogacy agency and inevitably meeting other surrogate mothers. Be ready to feel deep emotions for relationships you haven’t yet experienced in life; the bond with your intended parents is unique from any other bond you’ve had before the surrogacy. If you expect your surrogate pregnancy to invoke the same feelings as your previous pregnancies, you will be surprised at the new depths of emotions that surrogates experience. Be prepared to feel fulfilled and rewarded in ways you didn’t know were possible.

3) You Become a Better Communicator

Your communication habits will likely change when you become a surrogate. In addition to communicating your needs with your doctor and family, you will be responsible for sharing information and communicating regularly with the intended parents. This can get intense; depending on the intended parents you are working with, they may want weekly or even daily updates on your health and well-being. Rest assured that this is normal. For intended parents, the lack of control during pregnancy can be quite a challenge. If you step up your communication game, you’ll ease their spirits and in turn have a more enjoyable pregnancy.

4) You Learn What You Are Capable Of

Surrogate mothers are strong, generous people. They understand the joy of childbirth and the importance of family. These things are often what prompt people to consider surrogacy in the first place. As you go through your pregnancy and work with intended parents, you will learn what you are truly capable of. You will be amazed at your strengths and your ability to give such a miraculous gift to those who may have experienced many hardships in trying to conceive children of their own. Many surrogates say there is nothing more rewarding than knowing they have changed the lives of their intended parents.

Become a Surrogate with SPS

If this sounds appealing to you and you feel you are ready to begin your journey as a surrogate mother, choose Surrogate Parenting Services (SPS) to be your surrogacy agency. We have a unique method of matching surrogates and intended parents together based on personality, preferences, and chemistry between both parties. Mentors also work with you closely to ensure that you are more than prepared for all the changes that happen when you become a surrogate. For more information on getting started, contact SPS at (949) 397-6855 today.

 

 

October 26, 2017

UT Surrogate Battle Reminder CA is Tops for Equality

Surrogacy in the United States can be a complicated matter. Each state has different laws and perceptions on surrogacy, which often leads to misunderstandings in surrogacy agreements or obstacles for intended parents trying to build their families. A recent issue this year in Utah has the state’s Supreme Court challenged by intended parents who were denied the chance at having a child via surrogacy last year. State law in Utah worked against this couple, sadly delaying their dream to have children. This surrogate battle is a reminder that California, one of the most accepting states regarding surrogacy, stands at the forefront for equality.

Utah Couple Denied Chance at Family

An article published by Fox 13, a news source based in Salt Lake City, Utah, relays the details of a current surrogate battle happening between the state’s Supreme Court and a married gay couple. In 2016, a Utah judge denied the couple their chance to use a surrogate mother. According to Fox 13, the reasoning behind this ruling is that surrogacy is an option only available if a couple provides proof that a mother cannot conceive or is in medical danger if conception occurs. Previously, Utah state law did not approve surrogacy for same-sex partners because it required parents to be legally married. Now that Utah recognizes same-sex marriage, this ruling appears to discriminate against the gay couple based on the lack of “proof” required. Edwin Wall, the couple’s attorney, says, “There is no basis the state could assert that there is any legitimate reason in this case to distinguish between the married male couple and either married female couples or heterosexual couples.” In other words, a gender-neutral reading of the law at hand would settle the matter and approve the couple ready to start their surrogacy process. Unfortunately, time will have to tell as Utah’s Supreme Court won’t be ready to make a ruling for several months.

California Shines as Most Accepting State for Surrogacy

Unlike Utah, there is no question that California is a surrogacy-friendly state. State laws in California allow any parents – regardless of marital status or sexual orientation – to legally establish parental rights even before the child is born. In 1993, a famous surrogacy case brought to light this issue of establishing parental rights. Johnson v. Calvert was a case concerning a surrogate mother’s refusal to release the child she gave birth to, even though it was not related to her biologically (having been conceived with the intended parents’ sperm and egg). The final ruling determined that the intended parents – a married man and woman – were the child’s genetic, biological, and natural parents. California has now expanded on this to include all parent structures, making them a leader in equality for surrogacy arrangements.

Choose SPS to Build Your Family

Based in California, Surrogate Parenting Services (SPS) is more than welcoming of any parents looking for a surrogate mother to build their family. Regardless of reasons to choose surrogacy, mentors at SPS work closely with intended parents to personally match them with a surrogate based on both parties’ profiles and then continue to work with everyone involved to see the surrogacy through to a successful end. Before the baby is even born, intended parents can rest easy knowing that their parenthood is legally recognized by the state of California and that any necessary legal agreements have long been taken care of. For more information on how to start your surrogacy process, contact SPS at (949) 397-6855 today.