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May 4, 2018

How to Celebrate Mother’s Day During Your Surrogacy Journey

There are a whole lot of firsts during a surrogacy journey, whether you’re an intended parent or a gestational surrogate. If one of your firsts happens to be celebrating Mother’s Day, you might wonder what the right way to celebrate the holiday is. The good news is, as long as you and your surrogacy team are all on the same page, there’s no “wrong” way to observe the day. Many women who carry their children opt not to celebrate the day until after the baby is born and surrogates tend to report that they expect nothing to happen on the day (whether it’s the first or a Mother’s Day following the baby’s birth) simply because they aren’t the baby’s mother. That said, some families do like to celebrate the day, but aren’t quite sure how to do it. If you’re looking for unique ideas, check these out…

Write a Letter to the Baby

If you’d like to create a memorable keepsake for the little one, penning a letter for him or her may be ideal. Consider including things like how you’re feeling now, how excited you are that he or she will be here soon, and what brought you to this journey. Tuck the letter away in the baby’s first album, so he or she can read it in the years to come. While a single letter is memorable by itself, you may want to talk to others on your team to see if they’d like to write a few lines as well or keep it private and make it part of an ongoing tradition.

Pamper Yourself 

The path to motherhood has no doubt had its share of ups and downs for you, whether you’re a gestational surrogate or intended mother. With baby’s due date approaching, a little R and R is well-earned. Do whatever feels right to you, be it taking a nap, going for a massage, having a mani/pedi, or something else entirely.

Swap Gifts

If you’re carrying a baby for someone, you’re already providing them with the most precious gift they could ever wish for. That said, you can still make a symbolic gesture if it’s in your heart to do so. Some popular options include framed ultrasound images, recordings of baby’s heartbeat, or jewelry with “Mom” etched on it. Intended parents can also celebrate surrogates. Again, it needn’t be something lavish, but a simple note of appreciation, a keepsake, or something to pamper your surrogate is often greatly appreciated.

Have Lunch Together

If you’re close with the other members of your team, gather everybody for a meal together. Because surrogates already have children of their own who will (hopefully) be treating them to breakfast, consider meeting up for lunch or dinner. With the beautiful spring weather, it’s also the perfect time to meet up for a picnic at a park.

Start Your Surrogacy Journey with SPS

If you aren’t already a surrogate or an intended parent with a baby on the way, but are instead reflecting on your options this Mother’s Day, Surrogate Parenting Services is here to support you. We work with women who want to become gestational surrogates by ensuring they’re prepared for the journey ahead and helping them find their ideal intended parent matches. We also work with people who want to grow their families by ensuring they find well-qualified surrogates who share their values and ideals. Once matched, we guide teams throughout the entire process, from forming legal agreements through getting services to aid in the journey, so that it’s a wonderful experience for all. We’ve been a part of hundreds of surrogacy journeys and understand what lies ahead, as well as how to overcome obstacles you may face. Call SPS at (949) 397-6855 to learn more about what sets us apart or to begin your own surrogacy journey today.

April 30, 2018

Becoming a Surrogate? 5 Tips for Barbecuing Safely

Are you in the process of becoming a surrogate or already expecting? If so, the coming months will likely be a whirlwind for you, though you’ll undoubtedly pause at least once or twice to engage in one of America’s favorite pastimes—picnicking. Interestingly, the month of May is actually National Barbecue Month (Yes, it’s a real thing!), but there are some safety concerns pregnant women should be aware of before partaking. Here’s what to be on the lookout for…

1) Make Sure Food is Cooked Thoroughly

“If you don’t cook meat or fish thoroughly, harmful bacteria can grow and multiply. This could cause you to have food poisoning from bacteria such as salmonella, E. coli or campylobacter,” says dietician Sasha Watkins. The common concern with these is the digestive upset that can come along with them, such as vomiting and diarrhea, which results in dehydration and can cause pregnancy trouble including premature labor. Listeria, sometimes found in deli meats like hot dogs, is also responsible for miscarriages, birth defects, and stillbirths, but is killed off if the food hits 165°F.

Toxoplasmosis, which is a less common concern, may also arise after eating undercooked meats, especially pork and lamb. It’s associated with eye problems and brain damage in developing babies, and can even result in losing the pregnancy, so verifying meat hits the proper temperature is paramount. If you’re friends with the chef, ask him or her to use a thermometer to check temperatures before you eat. If you’re worried about etiquette or causing undue stress to the host, it’s best to keep meat off your plate.

2) Make Sure Fish and Shellfish are Fresh

Here in California, we’re relatively spoiled when it comes to having a fresh supply of seafood, but location is no guarantee of freshness. Older fish and shellfish can be particularly problematic, so if you’re unsure when it was caught or if it was brought to a high enough temperature to kill bacteria and viruses, it’s best to skip it.

3) Be Wary of Mercury-Laden Catches

Most women have heard of the health dangers of consuming tuna while pregnant. Though fish can be incredibly good for surrogate and baby, certain types with high levels of mercury can damage the little one’s developing brain and nervous system. Watkins says varieties such as marlin, swordfish, and shark have particularly high levels, so they should be avoided altogether.

4) Indulge in Moderation

Eating barbecued foods from time to time is generally not cause for concern. However, research has shown that foods cooked at high temperatures creates lots of polycyclic aromatic hydrocarbons (PAHs), which experts say can be carcinogenic. In addition to this, newer research suggests that consuming barbecued foods more often is linked low birth weights, though they haven’t identified how big of a risk they pose yet.

5) Skip the Creamy Salads

People often worry about the mayo included in certain dishes, like potato salad, but that’s rarely the issue if the cook used commercial may instead of homemade. However, these kinds of dishes can become breeding grounds for bacteria, which usually gets added into the mix inadvertently due to poor hygiene during prep while people are dishing up. As the food sits out for hours, it warms up and bacteria multiplies. Listeria is the common worry, though there are lots of dangerous pathogens that can lurk, so it’ generally best to avoid any type of creamy salad unless you know it has been held at the right temperature, was prepared in good conditions, and has not had the opportunity to be contaminated by other picnic goers yet.

By following these five main tips, you should have a healthier and happier barbeque season. Enjoy!

Contact SPS if You’re Interested in Becoming a Surrogate

Although we can’t make sure the potato salad you’re eyeing is safe and we can’t guarantee your chef cooked your burger thoroughly, we can help you through the surrogacy process and ensure you’re well taken care of if you’re considering becoming a surrogate. At SPS, we match up surrogates with intended parents who share their values, assist with things like contract negotiations, and serve as a safeguard against potential issues, so your journey is smooth. If you are interested in becoming a surrogate, view our guidelines for surrogate mothers to find out if you’re a candidate.

April 16, 2018

6 Meditation Tips for Surrogates and Intended Parents

Surrogates and intended parents can both benefit from meditation. Although most people associate it with stress reduction, research says it can also help encourage a healthier lifestyle, improve the immune system, aid in cardiovascular health, and slow aging. Plus, it’s been known to increase happiness, self-awareness, and acceptance. However, if you haven’t tried it before or have tried it and struggled, you can apply the tips outlined here to help aid in your journey.

1) Be in the Moment

The overall goal of meditation is to quiet the mind and to be in the moment. When you meditate, you should feel a sense of peace and calmness, as well as an awareness for what’s happening with your body.

2) Don’t Expect Meditation to Nuke All Wandering Thoughts

One common misconception about meditation is that, if you’re doing it right, your mind will become instantaneously clear. Perhaps over time, you may get to that point, but newcomers to the practice have to train themselves over time. When you begin your first meditation sessions, expect your mind to wander a bit, and simply guide yourself back to where you need to be. As you progress, you’ll catch your mind wandering quicker and will eventually reduce the number of wandering thoughts and how long they go on for.

3) Do Meditation in Your Own Way

Some people like to use music to transport themselves away from thought, while others like guided meditation or total silence. You should create the environment that works best for you and makes you feel comfortable.

4) Take Baby Steps

If you’re one who truly struggles with quieting a busy mind, you may do better by beginning with simple breathing exercises. Instead of setting aside time for a full session, start by taking a few deep breaths and focus on pulling in air as well as positive thoughts. As you let out those breaths, imagine pushing out any negative or unwanted thoughts with them. When you’re ready to plan your meditation sessions a bit more, begin with short interludes of two or three minutes. In the early stages, even this can feel like an extraordinarily long time, so set your duration for something you feel is manageable for you.

5) Quiet Your Surroundings

It’s pretty close to impossible to quiet your mind as a mediation beginner if you haven’t quieted the area around you, though you’ll likely find over time you can do it anywhere. In the early stages, set up an area that’s distraction-free and shut off your phone.

6) Celebrate Your Success

Whether you’ve moved from basic breathing exercises to two-minute sessions or have managed to cut back on wandering thoughts, each success is something to be proud of. Resist the urge to compare yourself to others or to set a timeline for hitting certain milestones. Meditation is about letting go and being right where you are now. People tend to report feeling better after only a week or so of meditation, so stick with it and appreciate the positive changes you’re making.

Find Surrogates and Intended Parents with SPS

Whether you’re an intended parent hoping to find qualified surrogates who can help you expand your family or you’re a woman who would like to provide someone with the ultimate gift, Surrogate Parenting Services is here to support you in your journey. Visit “Surrogacy in California: Personal Matching Process” to learn more about how we match surrogates and intended parents or contact us at (949) 397-6855.

 

April 5, 2018

4 Reasons Women Choose to Become a Surrogate

The decision to become a surrogate is a very personal one. Every woman who embarks upon this journey has her own reasons for taking the first steps. If you’ve ever wondered why some women choose to provide such a selfless gift for someone, let alone someone they don’t even know, as is the case with most gestational surrogates, some of the most common answers are highlighted below.

1) A Family Member or Close Friend Struggled with Infertility

Arguably, the most common reason women choose to become a surrogate is because infertility has touched their life in a deep way. Perhaps they watched a friend or sister go through miscarriages and/ or in vitro fertilization. In any case, these women are deeply touched by the circumstances and decide to help someone who is coping with a similar situation.

2) They Believe Every Person Deserves to Be a Parent

Now more than ever, LGBT issues are mainstream. Where there once was a time people within the community simply accepted they might never be parents at all, options like surrogacy make it possible for anyone who wants to share his or here life with a child to start a family. It’s somewhat common for women who have family members and friends in the LGBT community to feel a sense of solidarity and want to help people grow their families, whether they identify with the community personally or not.

3) A Friend or Family Member Has Been a Surrogate

Watching someone you care about go through the surrogacy journey can be an inspiring experience. Some women who support their friends throughout the surrogacy process learn what a difference a single selfless person can make in the lives of others and became motivated to do the same as a result.

4) They’ve Had Babies and Loved Being Pregnant

Some women simply glow throughout their pregnancies. They float through the experience on a cloud of pure joy. When these women have finished having their own children, they sometimes long to carry another child, though aren’t interested in having more children of their own. For them, the easy answer is to become a surrogate. Not only do they get to experience pregnancy again, but they’re able to provide someone with the same joy they’ve experienced.

Have You Decided to Become a Surrogate?

If you’ve decided to become a surrogate, let Surrogate Parenting Services guide you through the process. As one of the most trusted agencies in the country, SPS has helped hundreds of women become surrogates and assisted in fulfilling the dreams of growing families for years. View our guidelines for surrogate mothers to find out if you fit the guidelines to become a surrogate. Those who hope to grow their families with the help of a surrogate can also contact us directly at (949) 397-6855 to learn more about our process.

March 29, 2018

Becoming a Surrogate: Finding Your Motivation

Becoming a surrogate is not the same process for everyone. Many people feel motivated to become a surrogate because of personal scenarios, but others may find it as their calling by taking a completely different route. At the end of the day, regardless of the paths that led you to surrogacy, it is an amazing gift to be able to give a child to parents who deserve the opportunity to build a family. This journey is unique to everyone involved. No matter how you get there, embarking on the surrogacy journey can be an incredibly rewarding experience for everyone.

Your Generosity May Be Someone Else’s Miracle

If you have always felt passionate about giving back to others and helping those in need, you may find yourself looking into the surrogacy process. Becoming a surrogate is not the right path everyone, so those who feel drawn to it should consider it carefully. For repeat surrogate Sarah Jones, the urge to continue giving led her to being a surrogate four times after starting her own family. Her article on Independent news shares the details of her journey. After having children of her own and feeling that her fertility was a gift too precious to waste, she began reaching out to see if she could help someone else. Eventually she met the first couple she carried a child for. After the birth, she says, “Seeing the three of them together overwhelmed me in a way that is hard to describe – I was tired and a bit achy but so very, very happy.” She adds that this feeling kept her motivated to experience the miracle of childbirth with three more families after the first.

There are Countless Reasons for Becoming a Surrogate

Surrogates do not always begin their journeys the same way that Sarah Jones did. Many don’t even consider surrogacy until it hits closer to home. Sometimes seeing people close to you go through a struggle with infertility or obstacles to adoption can light the spark for becoming a surrogate. There’s also the perk of special friendships and second families created during surrogacy, something that Jones was passionate about in her story. You might also consider this path if you simply love being pregnant or are excited about giving life. There is also personal gain to be had from surrogacy, including access to quality healthcare and financial compensation. Regardless of the reasons, surrogacy is still a wonderfully generous gift to a family in need.

Choose SPS to Start Your Surrogacy Process

At Surrogate Parenting Services, you have access to passionate and experienced professionals who can provide you with the information, resources, and support you need throughout your own personal journey. If you are curious about becoming a surrogate for any of the reasons mentioned above or feel another connection to the process, reach out to our team for more information. For more information on becoming a surrogate, contact SPS at (949) 397-6855 today.

 

March 15, 2018

Surrogacy in California: Personalized Matching Process

If you’re considering surrogacy in California, rest assured that there are resources available to help you have the best experience possible. Perhaps the most crucial part of the surrogacy process for either party is the matching process. This is the time when potential surrogates meet potential intended parents to determine if the relationship will be a proper fit. Because so many factors play into finding the best match, most intended parents opt to work with experienced surrogacy agencies to ensure a good match is made.

The Matching Process Ensures Your Safety

While not every agency operates like SPS does, our first priority is ensuring that everyone we work with is both mentally and physically prepared for the journey ahead. For intended parents especially, an agency is helpful for eliminating much of the guesswork in finding the best surrogate. Because surrogacy in California is an ever-growing industry, the potential surrogates available can be overwhelming and it’s difficult to know what criteria really matters when searching for the ideal surrogate. Fortunately, using an agency for the matching process is the safest and most reliable way to find the right fit. Of course, quality agencies are with you well after the match is made, but assisting in this initial step is an important safeguard that makes the whole process much smoother.

Personality Makes a Difference

Beyond the initial safety and health concerns, personalized matching processes between surrogate and intended parents are key for establishing genuine relationships. Many agencies consider carefully the personality profiles of each party in order to set up the perfect match. Intended parents are free to note any preferences they may have for their surrogate from the beginning, but an agency can help them go a step further by finding surrogates that also have chemistry with the parents. Intended parents and surrogates who not only get along professionally but on a deeper, more personal level tend to have even more rewarding experiences throughout the surrogacy process.

Another bonus of having a highly personalized match between surrogate and intended parents is the opportunity to continue the relationship even after the child is born. Many surrogates remain close to intended parents long after the process is over because they bonded so deeply over their shared experience. Regardless of a surrogate’s involvement in the child’s life, they may remain a key pillar of support for the parents because they went through a unique journey together. This doesn’t happen for everyone, but more often than not an intimate friendship or familial feeling will develop between parties.

Find Your Perfect Match with SPS

To begin your journey toward surrogacy in California, turn to Surrogate Parenting Services. Knowledgeable professionals at SPS help intended parents find the best surrogate through health screenings, personality evaluations, and in-person meetings to ultimately determine the bond between each party. With this process, SPS is proud of the many successful surrogacy arrangements they have facilitated over the years. Personalized matches are the best way for everyone involved in surrogacy to have the most fulfilling experience. For more information on the surrogacy process, contact SPS at (949) 397-6855 today.

 

March 5, 2018

4 Ways to Bond with Baby During and After Surrogacy

Bonding with your baby is perhaps one of the most exciting parts of being a new parent. Since much of this initial bonding happens with the child in the womb, intended parents may wonder if they can still achieve the same connection with their child when he or she is born via surrogacy. Though the process will look a little different, there are plenty of ways to bond with your baby during the pregnancy and when you finally come home with your child.

1. Be Involved in the Pregnancy

As much as you can, try to be involved in the pregnancy process right along with your surrogate. This can mean going with her to doctor appointments or just spending some time together away from the hospital. This is helpful for bonding after childbirth because even though you are not experiencing the pregnancy yourself, your surrogate will more than likely be happy to keep you involved every step of the way and you’ll feel more involved in the pregnancy.

2. Talk to the Baby

When you meet with your surrogate, don’t be afraid to talk to the baby. A big part of mother and baby connection is the baby hearing the mother’s voice in vitro. Throughout the surrogacy process, let your baby hear your voice as much as possible. If it’s challenging to meet with your surrogate as often as you’d like, send her an audio recording of your voice to play for the baby, use speakerphone, or voice chat software.

3. Apply the Power of Touch

The more physical contact you have with your baby after he or she is born, the stronger your bond will be. Though a lot of this happens naturally as you change, bathe, and feed your baby, many parents also provide what’s known as “kangaroo care.” It simply involves holding your baby against you with skin-to-skin contact, and works just as well for fathers as it does mothers. Oftentimes, pulling your little one close in this manner is the fastest way to soothe him or her during fussy moments, so even if it feels a little odd at first, it will become natural.

4. Ease Into It

Lastly, it’s important to remember that your bond with your baby is incredibly special. Take your time easing into the transition of parenthood. Remember that you are this child’s parent and that your child will develop a special bond with you over time. Every parent brings something a little different to the table, so even if you aren’t parenting exactly like your significant other, like your friends, or like your parents did, that’s ok. How you parent will be unique to you and will shape your relationship with the little one, but you have a lifetime to work out the logistics of it.

Start Your Surrogacy Journey with SPS

If you are curious about building a family through surrogacy, start by contacting Surrogate Parenting Services. Experienced professionals at SPS will help you build your family by guiding you through every step of the process, from meetings to matching to the day of delivery. Our trusted mentors, many of which have gone through the process themselves, are here for you to answer any questions you may have about surrogacy. For more information, contact SPS at (949) 397-6855 today.

 

February 24, 2018

Surrogacy: How to Start the Conversation

While many intended parents are single, and therefore enter into their journey with the support of their surrogacy agency and team, others have spouses, domestic partners, or significant others who may be involved in the decision to go forward and who will ultimately become part of the team as well. With some couples, both people are on the same page from the start and the idea to work with a surrogate seemingly comes to mind for both at the same time. However, it’s also quite common for one person to ponder the idea and bring it up with the other. Given that it’s a very personal and often emotional decision, it can be difficult to decide how to approach the discussion with your partner. If you’re preparing to discuss surrogacy with your partner, use the tips below to help guide the conversation.

Start by Asking Questions

A good way to start the dialogue is by preparing a list of questions that you want to ask your partner. If you’ve been thinking about surrogacy for a long time but it hasn’t yet come up in your relationship, it may be a shock for your partner if you propose the idea out of the blue. Instead, start bringing up the conversation again about having children and gauge where your partner may be. Are they on the same page as you? Do they still love the idea of having a child? Have they been thinking about it since the last time you talked? The answers that your partner gives to these questions will help you steer the conversation toward surrogacy.

Hesitation is Okay

If you’ve proposed the idea of working with a surrogate to carry your child and your partner seems hesitant, don’t worry. It’s a natural reaction to a process that many are unfamiliar with. Surrogacy can seem like a strange concept to those who have maybe only heard of it in celebrity news or read tabloid stories. As you may already know, it’s easy to find the right kind of information about it if you know where to look. It may be helpful to use statements that begin with “I feel…” because they’ll encourage your partner to listen to you and can help you avoid stepping into accusatory language. Equally, you must also respect what your partner is saying and hear him or her out. If you need to pause the discussion because it becomes emotional or your partner isn’t ready to talk, give him or her space to process the idea and come back to the conversation after a while.

Learn About Surrogacy Together

Once you’ve come back to the conversation, share some of what you’ve learned about surrogacy on your own. Have you read testimonials that resonated with you? Share these with your partner and explain how you felt reading them. Browse surrogacy agency websites and blogs for honest stories that can shed light on both the amazing and challenging parts of the surrogacy process. It’s also a great idea to contact a local agency and schedule a meeting to learn more about what the first steps of the process may be for you. As you go, don’t pressure yourself or your partner to make hasty decisions. It’s a good idea to gather as much information as possible on the subject and let it all truly sink in before you make an official decision together.

Get Started with SPS

If you and your partner are ready to begin your journey, contact Surrogate Parenting Services for any of your surrogacy questions. Trained professionals at SPS can guide both you and your partner through the process one step at a time and at your own pace. Sometimes just a conversation to start can help both of you fall in love with the idea of someone carrying your baby. For more information on how to get started, contact SPS at (949) 397-6855 today.

 

February 15, 2018

Surrogacy: 5 Tips for a Comfortable Pregnancy

It’s no secret that pregnancy changes a woman’s body in many ways, some completely unexpected. Surrogates experience the multitude of physical and emotional changes during pregnancy as well as the added involvement of the intended parents and a specialized team of healthcare providers. Surrogacy can feel different than carrying your own child because there is an extra focus on your health from people other than your immediate family and friends. When the pregnancy changes begin to present themselves, remember that you have a dedicated team to turn to with any questions or concerns. To avoid some of the most common pregnancy discomforts, use incorporate the following five tips into your routine.

#1 Practice Yoga

Consult with your healthcare team before starting any exercise, but know that yoga can be a great way to promote flexibility and increase the strength of the muscles required for childbirth. Mayo Clinic also states that prenatal yoga can be helpful for nausea, headaches, and lower back pain. For many, yoga is a top alternative to more high-impact exercises and carries many of the same benefits.

#2 Add Meditation to Your Routine

Surrogacy can be an emotional journey filled with ups and downs, much like a regular pregnancy. Because there are usually more people involved in your surrogacy, it’s easy to get wrapped up in whatever is happening around you and put your own needs on the back burner. It’s also very common to experience mood swings during pregnancy. To ease your mind and promote relaxation, try meditating several times a week. This is a great way to tune in to your body and mind and can help you refocus when you need it. Even five minutes a day can be a simple way to incorporate some self-care and personal reflection into your routine.

#3 Get High-Quality Sleep

Getting enough sleep is always important but becomes especially crucial during pregnancy. If you didn’t have a set bedtime before, create one and try to stick with it. Communicate with other people in your household that your sleep is a priority so that they can help you stay on track. If you’re feeling tired at work or while out and about, don’t shy away from taking a 15-20-minute nap to reset. Feeling rested is important for the baby but also helps you manage your health and emotional wellness.

#4 Eat Well

To keep the baby healthy during your surrogacy, eating a diet rich in nutrients and vitamins is key. There are also several foods to be aware of that can help ease other uncomfortable pregnancy symptoms. To prevent or reduce feelings of nausea, try eating smaller portions throughout the day. Skipping meals may be tempting but can make you feel worse. Ginger ale or ginger gum is also handy to keep around when your stomach isn’t feeling its best. Foods high in fiber are good for your digestive health and can help prevent constipation. To keep uncomfortable gas at bay, avoid heavy starches such as potatoes or certain vegetables like broccoli or brussels sprouts. Keeping a list handy of certain foods that trigger symptoms will help you stay on track.

#5 Exercise Regularly

In addition to yoga, regular cardio exercise is a wonderful way to ease uncomfortable symptoms of your pregnancy during the surrogacy process. Something as simple as taking a walk during lunch can do wonders for fatigue, back pain, and stiff muscles. As always, make sure your doctors are aware of any exercise routines you plan on starting and consult with them first.

Start Your Surrogacy Journey with SPS

When you’re ready to become a surrogate, start with a trusted and experienced agency that has your needs in mind. Surrogate Parenting Services is committed to providing you with the best surrogacy experience you can have. SPS takes care of everything from setting you up with your ideal team to guiding you through each step of the pregnancy. For more information, contact SPS at (949) 397-6855 today.

 

February 2, 2018

How to Support Your Loved One During Surrogacy

If you have a friend, family member, or loved one going through the surrogacy process, your support is crucial during this time. Because many people do not truly understand the intricacies of surrogacy, it can be hard to know how to be there for your loved one in a way that really counts. Whether you know someone who is becoming a surrogate for the first time or intended parents starting to build their family, here are some tips that can help you be the best support you can be.

Respect Their Decision

Though it may seem obvious, respecting your loved one’s decision to pursue surrogacy is the best way to be supportive. You can make this clear by validating their choices and celebrating the process as you would celebrate any new pregnancy announcement. Avoid asking questions that may seem as if you’re trying to talk them out of surrogacy. Chances are they have already explored other options and are making an educated decision. Especially for intended parents, the choice to use a surrogate may be a sensitive topic if there have been prior struggles with infertility or other health complications. When they make the announcement, it’s best to simply celebrate their choice and assure them that they have your support.

Lend an Ear

During the surrogacy process, your loved ones will likely have a team of support that could include a surrogate agency, health care providers, or support groups. Even so, they will appreciate having a close friend to vent to that’s not as involved in the surrogacy process. As an outside perspective, you may not have answers to their questions, but your willingness to listen will make a difference.

Deflect Questions from Strangers

A great way to help your loved one have a smooth and enjoyable surrogacy is to act as a shield from intrusive questions from others. If they request you as such, they will appreciate your ability to answer politely to the potential stream of questions or comments pouring in from neighbors or even complete strangers. For surrogate mothers especially, there are many scenarios in which they may feel uncomfortable explaining their situation to nosy inquisitors. Your support in deflecting these questions can alleviate a lot of stress. If you know intended parents using a surrogate to carry their child, you can be especially helpful as they bring their child home to help them keep their privacy. In such a sensitive time, something small like fielding calls or visits for your loved ones can help them transition easily out of the surrogacy journey and into their next chapter.

Learn More About Surrogacy with SPS

If you or someone you know is looking to start their family with surrogacy, start by contacting Surrogate Parenting Services. Our experienced mentors are passionate about helping surrogates and intended parents have the best surrogacy journey possible. For more information, contact SPS at (949) 397-6855 today.