Spring has a way of inspiring fresh starts. It’s the time of year when many of us feel motivated to clean, organize, and clear out things we no longer need.

It can also be a great time to clear up misconceptions—especially when it comes to something as meaningful as surrogacy.

As surrogacy becomes more widely known, many people have questions about how the process works. And while curiosity is natural, there are also a few common myths that can create confusion.

Below, we’re “spring cleaning” six of the most common misconceptions about gestational surrogacy.

Myth #1: The Baby Is Genetically Related to the Surrogate

One of the most common misconceptions about surrogacy is that the surrogate is biologically related to the baby she carries. In gestational surrogacy—the type we specialize in at SPS—this is not the case.

Through in vitro fertilization (IVF), an embryo created using the intended parents’ or donors’ egg and sperm is transferred to the surrogate’s uterus. Because of this, the surrogate has no genetic connection to the child.

This medical advancement allows surrogates to help grow a family while maintaining clear biological boundaries.

Myth #2: Surrogates Often Change Their Minds About Giving Up the Baby

Another myth is that surrogates frequently become too emotionally attached and decide to keep the baby.

In reality, reputable surrogacy agencies follow a careful screening process, including psychological evaluations, counseling, and legally binding agreements

It’s also incredibly rare for a surrogate to want to “keep” the baby. Surrogacy is a partnership, and surrogates and intended parents often develop a close relationship during the pregnancy. Surrogates are typically just as excited as the intended parents when the baby finally arrives.

Myth #3: Women Only Become Surrogates for the Money

Most surrogates are women who genuinely enjoy pregnancy and feel called to help someone else experience the joy of parenthood. Many are inspired by a friend or family member who struggled with infertility, while others are simply motivated by the opportunity to make a meaningful difference in another family’s life.

While financial compensation recognizes the time, commitment, and responsibility involved, the heart of surrogacy is the desire to help create a family. 

For many surrogates, the most rewarding part of the journey is knowing they helped change someone’s life forever.

Myth #4: Surrogacy Is Medically Dangerous

Some people assume surrogacy is inherently risky. In reality, surrogates are carefully selected based on their health history.

Qualified surrogates have already experienced healthy pregnancies and deliveries, and they undergo extensive medical screening before being approved. Throughout the pregnancy, they receive ongoing care from fertility specialists and OB-GYN providers.

These safeguards help ensure the process is as safe as possible for both surrogate and baby.

Myth #5: Surrogates and Intended Parents Don’t Have a Relationship

Many people imagine surrogacy as an anonymous process where the surrogate and intended parents remain distant.

At SPS, the reality is quite the opposite. We believe the matching process should be personal and thoughtful, because surrogates are far more than a name on a screen.

Both surrogates and intended parents create detailed profiles and meet with our team so we can learn more about the experience they’re hoping for, along with their values, expectations, and preferences for communication throughout the journey.

Because of this thoughtful matching process, surrogates and intended parents often build strong connections during the pregnancy—and many stay in touch long after the baby is born.

Myth #6: Anyone Can Become a Surrogate

Becoming a surrogate is a generous act—but not everyone qualifies.

Reputable surrogacy programs require candidates to meet specific criteria related to age, health history, prior pregnancy experience, and lifestyle factors. Surrogates also complete medical and psychological evaluations to ensure they are fully prepared for the journey.

At SPS, prospective surrogates must meet several important requirements, including:

• Having had one or more easy pregnancies and deliveries
• Being between the ages of 21 and 40
• Having at least one child of their own living with them
• Being a non-smoker
• Having reliable transportation
• Being financially stable
• Having a desire to help another in a special way
• And loving being pregnant!

These guidelines help protect everyone involved and support a healthy, successful surrogacy journey.

Understanding Surrogacy Starts With the Right Information

Surrogacy is an incredible journey that has helped thousands of families grow. But like many complex topics, it’s often misunderstood.

By clearing up some of the most common misconceptions, we hope this article gives you a clearer understanding of what the surrogacy journey really looks like. 

Learn More About Becoming a Surrogate with Surrogate Parenting Services 

Surrogate Parenting Services is proud to celebrate over 35 years of helping to bring dreams to life! Founded in 1990, Surrogate Parenting Services (SPS) is a full-service surrogacy agency that offers both parties an exceptionally supportive environment throughout the surrogacy relationship. We’re passionate about creating ideal matches between surrogates and intended parents, so the journey is fulfilling for both sides and the future child is brought into this world in the best possible circumstances.   

Learn more about our Surrogacy Program online or by calling 949-363-9525.