When you choose to become a surrogate, you’re not just carrying a baby—you’re helping bring a family’s dream to life. And while every journey is unique, one thing is always true: the experience is deeply personal.

That’s why the relationship between surrogates and intended parents (IPs) is so important. Unfortunately, not every surrogacy agency treats it that way. Some agencies keep surrogates and IPs separated, with communication filtered through translators or staff members. For a process as intimate and life changing as surrogacy, this approach can feel impersonal and even unsettling.

At Surrogate Parenting Services (SPS), we believe that a close connection between surrogates and intended parents is at the heart of a successful journey, and it’s something we have always required and nurtured.

Why the Relationship Matters

Surrogacy isn’t a transaction. It’s a shared journey filled with trust, care, and hope. 

When surrogates and intended parents truly connect, the experience becomes more meaningful for everyone. Surrogates are able to see the impact of their gift firsthand, while intended parents gain comfort and confidence knowing the person who is carrying their baby. 

Often, these relationships create bonds that can last well beyond the birth.

How SPS Creates Strong Matches

With over 35 years of experience, our founder and president, Cristie Montgomery, personally guides each match. She meets with both surrogates and intended parents to understand their values, hopes, and expectations. This personalized care is why our matches are almost always a success.

At SPS:

• Surrogates and IPs meet early in the process to make sure the relationship feels right.
• Intended parents are encouraged to attend appointments whenever possible and—except in rare circumstances—are always present at the birth.
• We only work with intended parents who are willing to build a genuine relationship with their surrogate.

The Magic Moment

Every surrogate will tell you that one of the most unforgettable parts of the journey is watching intended parents meet their baby for the first time. It’s the culmination of months of teamwork, trust, and shared hope.

As SPS surrogate Jaleesa shared:
“In just seconds, you watch someone transform into a mom or dad when all they could do before was dream of being one. Nothing was more magical other than when I had my own children.”

What Our Families Say

One of the best signs of a strong surrogacy journey is the relationship it creates. Here are a few words directly from our SPS community:

• “Cristie worked hard to match us with a wonderful surrogate and we hit the jackpot. Our surrogate was so incredible and she will always be part of our family.” – Beth, Intended Parent

• “This pregnancy was just as enjoyable as my own pregnancies, and now I will always have a connection with this new family. It just feels like I gained another family, which is an amazing and gratifying feeling.” – Heather, Surrogate

• They matched us with the most amazing family and we could not have been happier, even to the extent that we went back to the US to introduce our daughter (who’s now 7) to her surrogate family! They will be lifelong friends – it’s just a shame they live so far away!! – Leanne W., Intended Parent 

• “The delivery is why I did my second journey (and the following ones). Seeing the parents have the babies they’ve been dreaming of, that they never thought they would have, the happiness and joy of it all. That’s why I instantly wanted to do another one.” – Ashley, Surrogate

Choosing the Right Agency

If you’re considering becoming a surrogate, choosing an agency that prioritizes real connections is essential. Be cautious of agencies that discourage or limit direct relationships between surrogates and intended parents. Surrogacy is far too meaningful to be treated like a transaction.

At SPS, we take every step of the journey seriously. From the first match to the moment intended parents meet their baby, we’re here to make sure the experience is supportive, safe, and deeply meaningful for everyone involved.

Learn More About Becoming a Surrogate with Surrogate Parenting Services 

Surrogate Parenting Services is proud to celebrate over 30 years of helping to bring dreams to life! Founded in 1990, Surrogate Parenting Services (SPS) is a full-service surrogacy agency that offers both parties an exceptionally supportive environment throughout the surrogacy relationship. We’re passionate about creating ideal matches between surrogates and intended parents, so the journey is fulfilling for both sides and the future child is brought into this world in the best possible circumstances.   

Learn more about our Surrogacy Program online or by calling 949-363-9525.